"We the precocious, we the repressed of culture, our lovely mouths gagged with pollen, our wind knocked out of us, we the labyrinths, the trampled spaces, the bevies--we are black and we are beautiful."
Sometimes the internet offers you grapes (why grapes? I like them okay?) instead of lemons (I like these too). Now there are obvious problems with this. The constant reiteration that sexual desire between friends is somehow 'weird' (like that never happens and if it does, is something to be ashamed by) or like S says the distinction between friendship and love ought to be an obvious one, you know what, I'll just quote her:
but i dont know how i feel about the constant "in a platonic way of course", "that would be weird" parts. you know? its like we constantly have to reassure ourselves about our heterosexuality and monogamy and the boundaries between friendship and "love". :(
what do you think? as you know its because of my love for you that i am sharing this thought :D (LOVE, not just friend love)
Yeesh I love her.
And that well, it sounds a tad bit homophobic. But since these shapeless blobs look pretty gender-less I'm going to put that aside for a while. The reason why I love it, despite its problems, is that it's so much about desire between friends. Something we never talk about. A desire that needn't be sexual, maybe erotic, but is desire nonetheless. Friendship can have its deep pains and pleasures and needs and wants and it's all navigated under this heavy sub text that it can be quite exhausting. Personally, the major relationships in my life have been those with friends, the most exhausting and enriching? Between my friends. So I have friends who I have wanted to exchange saliva with, some with whom we've just talked about it and then with some, hand holding is just about perfect. And talking about all that pain and pleasure when I first saw this I sent it to nearly all my friends, expect one or two. And I want to send it but, the pain oh the pain and the rejection and oh gosh did I mention that friendship was exhausting?